Never have a tantrum in the store again with this one simple tip.
So you’ve all
been there before…you’ve got your child in the cart at the store, you walk past
a toy or treat that they want.
Kid: “Mommy, Mommy, can I have that Barbie?”
“No, not today honey”
Kid: “But I really want it Mommy”
You: “Yes I know, but
we’re not getting you a Barbie today”
Kid (volume a little louder): “Mom, I
WANT THAT BARBIE!”
And then your child goes into full-on tirade mode…screaming,
flailing, crying, the whole enchilada. You get those looks from everyone in the
store like, “Don’t you know how to calm that kid down??” You’ve all been
there, and it’s not a fun moment – probably one of the many reasons I dislike
While the tirade ensues, you’ve got two choices:
You give in and
buy the Barbie just to avoid the embarrassment – this teaches the child that
they can get whatever they want if they just throw fit…not ideal.
You let them
throw their fit and pretend you’re the only one in the store :).
To be completely
honest, I’ve done both of these things. I didn’t like either of them, and I’m
here to tell you there is an awesome alternative.
In implementing the Workstars
Family Economy System (learn more here), you establish a family store. This store
is made up of toys, candy, & other things your child wants to earn. Throughout
the week they earn stars which they can turn into cash or purchase items in the
So now when our child sees something they want in the supermarket,
we reply: “Sure I can buy that and put it in the family store and you can earn
it.” This has totally changed the mindset of our kids. They now know that the
only way they can get toys, candy, etc is by earning it.
As we have implemented
this, we have noticed one big change with our kids – they don’t ask for things
as much while we are at the store. They have learned to associate getting toys
with work (most of the time – believe me we still work on this every day).
next time you are in the store and you feel a tirade beginning, think of our 3rd
alternative and purchase the item for the family store. They will appreciate it
more if they earn it anyways.